Discovering You~ Adult Edition

 Tyler Perry (never thought I would be quoting him), but he said that, and in my way, "Don't marry someone until you have seen them in all seasons". 

Why?

Because people tend to change. They evolve. 

Layers of them are covered in some seasons and times in their lives and then some layers are removed to uncover another part of them in the next season. 

The thing about this is, that it doesn't only apply to getting to know someone else, but to ourselves as well.

The person that we are most and forever committed to is ourselves.

The core of us might not change, because there are some things that will always remain the same. It will always be our key traits, but as we continue to grow and mature in life, we're going to find ourselves shedding layers that we have kept wrapped up in for quite some time.

Who we were as a teenager is not who we are as an adult. Who we were as single, we're different as married. 

Who we were as childless, we will be different as a parent. 

We change constantly and as beings who change constantly we must learn to love and get to know the persons who we are 'Now'.

Often times as adults we get so wrapped up in life that we as individuals lose ourselves.

We're vaguely aware of the core of who we are, but the new us who we have transformed to, we don't know who that is. 

We're just living day by day, getting by in the body of a stranger. 

There's no recollection of who we are as this person now.

In fact, if we were to be asked to describe ourselves without involving our titles, we'll be stumped.

Who are we without saying a wife?

A mom?

A husband?

A father?

A (Job Title)?

Do you know who you are?

I know it is not easy to spend quality time with yourself as you could have done back then. 

There's too much on your plate. 

The kids, the spouse, the job, etc. There's too much going on for you to even manage time to yourself. 

I get that, but I encourage you to MAKE time for yourself. Or else that empty feeling will continually plague you.

Make the effort to find yourself again because you deserve to!

You owe it to yourself to know who you are because it not only benefits you in the long run, but it helps your health, your family, your job, your friends, and your spirit. 

Finding yourself will fill the shell you felt like. 

Discover your likes as you 'now'.

Discover your dislikes. 

Discover what helps you breathe again. 

Set up your boundaries and standards for this new you. 

Discover the strength, the love, the care, and the wisdom of who you are now.

One of the reasons why you may feel misplaced or depressed is because you do not know who you are right now. 

I encourage you to take the first step in correcting this. 

Take the 5 minutes more on the highway and think about what you love doing. Another 5 when showering. 

Set a lunch break and write down some things about yourself. Take yourself on a  treat even if it's only a milkshake. 

Love on yourself. 

Your new self.

Accept the new you!

New Wife You!

New Husband You!

New Mom You!

New Dad You!

New Promotion You!

New Job You!

New Singleness You!

Accepted who you are and where you are and love yourself on the journey to where you need to be!

~TheRay