TheRay's Destiny

  In this post, I want to speak to you about equality.  Spiritual equality, more so. There are many instances in our Christian journies where we may think that we are less than others regarding the venomous bite of comparison. Perhaps we aren't as fluent as so and so in prayer.  Or we don't speak as eloquently enough as our brother in Christ.  Maybe we aren't used in the prophetic department as much as our sister.  There may be a lot of things that we are unable to do as well as the next person, but this does not, in no way or form, makes us any less than those around us. In 1 Corinthians 12 , it speaks about the importance of the different parts of the body.  The body has many uniquely different parts. One part has another function and purpose than the other. The next one looks different from the other.  Even when one part is hurt or receiving pleasure, each part reacts differently to the pain or satisfaction. Yet, with all of the distinctions between...

  I know! It's far different from any of our Let's Talk segments, but I am genuinely curious about how you are doing? I know that this question can be very generic and sometimes it is even answered generically.  I might get a 'fine', 'good', or nothing at all.  But, I would love an honest answer if you can.  I know in life, time may speed by and we often don't get to answer this question properly.  Sometimes answering with one word is easier.  But, today, I want you to bear it all out here! Take a moment and really think.  Are you doing good for real? Are you really fine? I am not fishing for you to find something wrong with you. If you are truly fine and good by all means, I am happy for you! Drop it down in the comment section.  If you aren't all fine, you can still drop it down in the comment section on how you feel. 

  Psalm 46:1 "God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in our times of trouble." There's a song that we all know to be a popular funeral song, but I have found myself singing this song at random times especially when my soul feels down.  It helps me to remind it that it is not alone, nor is it weak.  The song is called "It is Well".  The song is repetitive, but this is a small piece that I sing that I want to share with you It says:  "When peace like a river attendeth my way When sorrow like sea billow roll Whatever my lot, Thou has taught me to say. It is well, It is well with my soul"  This song although so short is such a soul refresher.  I paired it with the scripture because it helps double down when it comes to reminding your soul.  Sometimes, we have to remind our soul that God has made it well for us.  We have to remind our souls that He is our refuge and our strength. That He is our ever-present help in times of trouble....

 I had been talking with God about a situation when I heard "Don't Settle".  I automatically assumed that it was my relationship because normally when people say to don't settle, it means to not get comfortable with someone who is giving you the bare minimum.  However, that was not what my 'Don't Settle' meant.  It means to not settle in my journey with God, to not settle with my mental health, to not settle with my job, and to not settle with who I am.  Normally when I get a topic, I meditate on it for a few days because I believe that correction isn't brought for me to correct anyone else but myself first.  I'm very much of a practice-what-I-preach kind of person.  So, when I got the word I first took notice of what was actually going on in my life and I asked myself, "Am I happy with this, or am I tolerating it?"  I know some things that happen in our lives are not what we want or imagine, but are we sticking to it, or are we trying to...

Photo by Nick Fewings on Unsplash  If these walls can talk it would say that it was their umpteenth time here again.  On their knees, tears flowed from their eyes trying to call out to whoever was their friend.  It would say how they paced the floors and mumble things unable to understand.  It would say how they watch them unfold and fold, barely able to stand.   If these walls can talk, it would say how they see them turned dark.  Watching beyond the sheetrock as they slice leaving redlines as their mark It would say that they saw them cursed, it saw them call down everything they can think of It would say how they were silent and a shell of themselves, absolutely nothing left. No love. If these walls can talk, it would tell them that they had tried everything but the One He sits high and looks down low, His blinks control the sun.  It would tell them that if they try His system then it won't hurt as much It would tell them that He would love them be...

  This is a heavy topic and I hit on this a while back before. (Trauma-Spoken Word) However, I want to circle back on it and open the floor for us to have a discussion on it.  Most of us, if not all of us have gone through something in our childhood, teenage, or young adulthood lives that have either have us tip-toeing into our future or barreling towards it with no awareness.  Trauma is something that I don't take lightly because I believe that it is something that can literally change the way a person thinks and act, therefore changing their course of life.  Most time, especially in the black community, trauma can go untreated.  It won't be talked about. It won't be treated.  It won't even be identified.  However, the way we would act and think and go about in our daily lives would display the reactions of what we have gone through in our past.  Facing what we have been through before is harsh and very much painful.  You're going to find yo...

 Tyler Perry (never thought I would be quoting him), but he said that, and in my way, "Don't marry someone until you have seen them in all seasons".  Why? Because people tend to change. They evolve.  Layers of them are covered in some seasons and times in their lives and then some layers are removed to uncover another part of them in the next season.  The thing about this is, that it doesn't only apply to getting to know someone else, but to ourselves as well. The person that we are most and forever committed to is ourselves. The core of us might not change, because there are some things that will always remain the same. It will always be our key traits, but as we continue to grow and mature in life, we're going to find ourselves shedding layers that we have kept wrapped up in for quite some time. Who we were as a teenager is not who we are as an adult. Who we were as single, we're different as married.  Who we were as childless, we will be different as a pare...

  Dear You,  Do you know what brings you peace? Do you know what makes you smile? What makes you feel at ease? What makes you happy? Content? Unique? What are your likes and dislikes? Who are you? The power of knowing oneself is greater than anything out there.  The deep connection, the fondness of knowing yourself as a whole is a feeling that can't be described as anything short of profound.  I assume this is why at your age, not knowing who you are is frustrating.  In the journey of finding who you are as an individual, you may stumble into what I call the Years of Uncertainty.  It's the years where media deems it as 'Rebellious Teen Years', but it is more than that.  It is the years when we are at the end of that structured life that our parents/guardians had made for us and on the brink of adulthood.  It's the years when we are trying to dissect who we are from being So and So's child and who we really are.  What we like and not what the ...