TheRay's Destiny

Make Worship A Lifestyle Again (MWALA) Let's Talk! As you know life is not easing up on us! If one thing ends, there is another thing coming. At this point, I think I am in some book that is drama filled and if I was reading it, it would have me at the edge of my seat.  But considering it's real life, it's not exciting, you know? However, that's not what I want to talk about. I know life is hard and I wish I can tell you something like it would get easier, but I don't want to give false expectations.  But, there has been something that has been helping me tremendously in the midst of the whirlwind called life.  Worship and prayer! I find that a good worship session or prayer session whether I am in my car or home or to work in the bathroom helps ease the worry and anxiety of my troubles.  Sometimes even in the middle of my breakdowns, I turned it into a session to glorify God.  So my question to you is, what do you do when life is a tornado of worries and anxiet...

  I  had this question for some time now and I debated asking because I felt like it might come off as stupid. I know that the world is changing and the more years go by, we don't only age but so does the earth.  There are so many things that are happening on this earth that we can no longer turn a blind eye. Just because it may not be happening in our region doesn't mean that we wouldn't be affected by it. However, the more I learn about Climate change, the more I can't help but think about the Book of Revelation.  There are just so many things that are happening today that we classify as climate change that can also be an indication of what was said in Revelation.  Not only in Revelation but also in what the prophet Isaiah had proclaimed.  I would like to know what are your thoughts on it.  Is it the same or am I completely wrong?

  I know! It's far different from any of our Let's Talk segments, but I am genuinely curious about how you are doing? I know that this question can be very generic and sometimes it is even answered generically.  I might get a 'fine', 'good', or nothing at all.  But, I would love an honest answer if you can.  I know in life, time may speed by and we often don't get to answer this question properly.  Sometimes answering with one word is easier.  But, today, I want you to bear it all out here! Take a moment and really think.  Are you doing good for real? Are you really fine? I am not fishing for you to find something wrong with you. If you are truly fine and good by all means, I am happy for you! Drop it down in the comment section.  If you aren't all fine, you can still drop it down in the comment section on how you feel. 

The hardest and one of the most self-realizing parts of life is accepting what it has become as you grow older.  It's accepting that it is costly.  It's accepting that it is a bumpy ride.  It's accepting that it's going to do some turns you don't want it to.  With me, I think one of the hardest parts about accepting life was that it changes.  I am not anti-change, but I am a bit of a pro-slow-change person, however, life doesn't do that.  There were many things that transpired in my life quickly and it took time for me to adjust when I had no time to even operate with.  I want to know what yours is today! What is the hardest thing about life you had to accept?

 I often say that sometimes our lives get chaotic when we start to lose balance over it.  We start working too much and neglect personal self-care.  We start focusing on the next big project that we forget the small accomplishments.  We focus on being healthy and forget to get our minds in shape.  Having that reign over our lives exists in being able to balance every aspect properly.  This, of course, is not an easy task and it is sure not possible without God in the balance. So, tell me, have your life been feeling chaotic for some time now? Unable to catch your breath? It seems like it's one thing after the next and you just can't keep up? Let's talk about it!  

 Have you ever felt the immense feeling of detachment from someone but continued to hold on? I was not always this aware of this in my life until recently. Now, I pay very close attention to who God is weaning me away from because back then I wasn't the best at letting go of people in both senses of the phrase.  I remember I was in this relationship with a guy and I was getting what we call "Red Flags". However, these weren't the red flags we can see with our physical eyes. I guess that's why it was so hard for me to decipher.  Physically viewing the relationship there was nothing wrong to send off warning bells in my head, yet, I kept feeling the notion that we should no longer go on.  If that wasn't enough, I dreamt we broke up. Yet, that still wasn't enough for me apparently because I continued on in the relationship.  Logically there wasn't a reason for me to break up with him. I couldn't say that I dreamt we broke up or that I had a weird feel...

  This is a heavy topic and I hit on this a while back before. (Trauma-Spoken Word) However, I want to circle back on it and open the floor for us to have a discussion on it.  Most of us, if not all of us have gone through something in our childhood, teenage, or young adulthood lives that have either have us tip-toeing into our future or barreling towards it with no awareness.  Trauma is something that I don't take lightly because I believe that it is something that can literally change the way a person thinks and act, therefore changing their course of life.  Most time, especially in the black community, trauma can go untreated.  It won't be talked about. It won't be treated.  It won't even be identified.  However, the way we would act and think and go about in our daily lives would display the reactions of what we have gone through in our past.  Facing what we have been through before is harsh and very much painful.  You're going to find yo...

  There are times in our walk when we are instructed to do certain things.  It can range from mild to downright wild! There are many stories in the Bible about people being instructed by God to do certain things. There are some that did it without a second thought and others that needed confirmation.  You can look at Abraham, who was going to sacrifice his son. He did that without even asking for more on it. That was one of the wild ones.  Then, you have others like Joseph (Jesus' fleshly father), who was only instructed to move his family from the place he knew full and well to another land.  We also have Gideon, who was instructed to deliver the people of Israel, who constantly asked God for confirmation before he even made the first step.  I haven't been instructed to do anything wild such as Isaiah who had to be naked, or  Ezekial who had to lay on his side for a long amount of years, but I have been instructed to do certain things out of my comfor...

  In today's world, there are so many things that run through our minds that can leave us depressed and just completely out of it.  This, in turn, causes difficulties with us wanting to get out of bed and going through another day.  I know  I have NOT been the only one who at some point in life finds it so hard to get out of bed. I'm sure I am not the only one who has laid in their bed and said "What's the point?"  Obviously, I have found some kind of remedy to this madness.  The trick for me is thinking about my family, my purpose, and my reason for being here.  I know there is still more for me to accomplish, so I try my hardest to push through that fog.  Tell me, what's your antidote on those days of immobility.  Those days when your heart and mind have held hands and decided to not continue? What still makes you swing one foot out of the bed? What makes you get up? Leave comments below! Let's talk!

  The question is:  "Do you think issues/problems disappear in time or do we have to confront them?" I'm reminded of a post a while ago named "A True Overcomer". If you haven't checked it out, check that out and then come back and let's talk.  I have always been one who believes that in order to overcome a situation, you must confront it. But, I also know that not every battle needs to be fought and that one must look at the issue and see if it is worth resolving. Of course, there are some issues/problems that we let live out way longer than they should, because we may also fear the result of confronting them. Therefore, we allow certain issues to go on in hopes that they would die out on their own, but do they ever really just die out on their own? I personally think that avoiding the problem only makes it bigger and harder to deal with when it's actually time to deal with it.  Tell me what do you think? Are you waiting for it to die on its own, or ...

  Do you think that Peer Pressure lives beyond your teen years? I'm 27 currently and before time, I could have sworn peer pressure only existed in high school. The pressure to fit in, to have friends, relationships, good grades, bad grades, a cool image, etc. Whatever it is, you name it, I thought it all only existed in high school, however, when I got older and stepped into adulthood I realize that peer pressure is still ever-present and even stronger.  Instead of just being comfortable single, you're pressured to be in a relationship and if you're in a relationship, you're either pressured to be single or married. Have premarital sex. And, God forbid, if you're married more than 6 months and don't have a child, or a house, and at least two cars.  You have to have a nice job, because why don't you? The latest cars, the nice body, the happy family.  Pressured to look and try to present this image that we are more successful and simply fine than we are.    I...

Photo by Ilyass SEDDOUG on Unsplash   Before we get started, I would like to introduce to you a new segment.  I would like to hear from you more! This segment would be called "Share Your Story!" It's going to be a way for me and you to interact more. You can send me a story, a question, testimony, or even information, you would like to share and it will be uploaded here on the blog.  Just send it in the email theraysdestiny26@gmail.com or through the contact page.  I really can't wait to hear from you.  ~~~ As a writer, I somehow keep up or try to keep up with the news, and let me tell you something, this world is becoming more dangerous every day.  You're being assaulted for your gender, your race, your belief, your age, or even just the way you look.  There is so much hate and evil in the world and if you're not strong enough mentally, you would literally be consumed by fear to even step outside of your home or even to go on living.  My prayer ...