Letting Go-Let's Talk

 Have you ever felt the immense feeling of detachment from someone but continued to hold on?

I was not always this aware of this in my life until recently. Now, I pay very close attention to who God is weaning me away from because back then I wasn't the best at letting go of people in both senses of the phrase. 

I remember I was in this relationship with a guy and I was getting what we call "Red Flags". However, these weren't the red flags we can see with our physical eyes. I guess that's why it was so hard for me to decipher. 

Physically viewing the relationship there was nothing wrong to send off warning bells in my head, yet, I kept feeling the notion that we should no longer go on. 

If that wasn't enough, I dreamt we broke up. Yet, that still wasn't enough for me apparently because I continued on in the relationship. 

Logically there wasn't a reason for me to break up with him. I couldn't say that I dreamt we broke up or that I had a weird feeling about us. To me, that was weird, especially when the relationship had no holes. 

I ignored the warnings. 

It is always a key part of this learning process that sticks with me. I remember, the person was talking about future plans with us and at that very moment, the voice of God said, "You will not be with him beyond this month". 

Now, I freaked out after that because this was one of the first times I actually heard God speak to me so clearly. 

Any other person would have ended the relationship right there, right?

Like, girl, you hear God, you need to do what He says. 

But, I didn't. I was very logical and believed that everything needed a reason. 

In my eyes, there wasn't any reason for me to end a relationship that was going good. I didn't see what God was seeing and why it was necessary for me to detach myself from this relationship. 

There were no red flags that I can see. There was no cheating. No arguments. We were both saved. What was the reason?

So, I dragged my feet in hopes that whatever this was that plague me would go by, but God had other plans because at the end of that same month we were broken up. The reason is still absurd to this day. 

But, the results of it are what make me happy the most because when I detached myself I met my husband. 

Now, back to the question at hand. 

I personally believe that we do get the feeling or notions or even pull to detach ourselves from others as well as things that could be hindering us from where God wants us to be. 

In many cases, just like, you probably won't see the issue or the reason why you may have to let go of this person. Or, stop going to this place. Or, stop doing something, but God knows exactly why a period has to come to it. 

I found out years later why and sometimes that's what may happen. We might just get a "Just cause" 

I had imagined if I had stayed in that relationship and the amount of time I would have wasted. Or, even worse, the horrible decisions that I would have made to keep that person in my life when they clearly -by God's eyes, weren't supposed to be in my life in the first place.

Are you getting the feeling of warnings, or the 'red flags' to shake something off? 

You may not be like me who got clear and gigantic red flags, but you may be getting some kind of warning. 

Are you listening? Will you do it, even though it isn't adding up for you?

Drop your comments below. Let's talk!