The Good One, The Right One, The One.

 

It's love week!

Happy  Valentine's Day to all of you!

Today, I decided to stick to the theme of this week and give you this piece I had written a time back concerning relationships. 

Now, if you're a real family of TheRay, you would know that I did have a portion on my Instagram @theraydestinys_ dedicated to relationship quotes and advice, but had slowed down completely. 

Okay, I stopped. 

But, that's mainly because I don't consider myself a relationship guru or a marriage counselor and I don't want to persuade anyone to think that my words were textbook factual.

Even with this post, I want to put a disclaimer out there that I am not a relationship guru or marriage counselor. Please take these words of advice as just advice. If it works for you, then fine, but if not, leave it be.

Let's get to it!

The Good One, The Right One, and The One.

I am sure that every one of us has experienced either one of these in a relationship before. 

As I go into defining each one of these, I am positive you would say, "Yeah, I had a good one before" or " Yup, I have the right one" 

The goal of this post is to help those that are single and dating to either find the one they are looking for or confirm that they are on the right path.

A Good One:

A good one is a person that has every aspect that one may think is required. 

They're the ones that every relationship checklist is generically built on. 

They can listen, provide, be caring, smart, kind, and everything above. Often times these persons even stemmed from a good upbringing.

They are everything you want in your better half, however, this is just on the surface. 

Somewhere between your relationship, there is something lacking. Something is missing and it even takes a bit of time to find it.

Yes, this person is good and they meet every expectation a partner should have, but it seems as though you both can never click together. 

You're incompatible.

This person is good, but they aren't good for you. 

Many of us have had one of these good people filter into our lives at one point in time. Some of us have even tried to go beyond the obvious disproportion of the relationship and make it work, but crash and burn in the end because this good person was just not for us.

Yes, we had awesome fun together and the ride was good, but that's just where it stops. Good. 

Now if you find yourself with a good one you can try to make it work. You can settle down and get the good that comes with them, but I want you to be certain that the issue that you have will always be the same. 

The missing piece that really binds you both together will always be absent, simply because they are just not good for you. 

The Right One:

 Now, the right one is easily always mistaken for the One. 

They're just like the Good One with all of the qualities, but they rack up even more on the list. 

See, the Good Ones just check the basic relationship checklist, but the Right Ones are the ones that check the detailed checklist that you personally have.

In the part where the Good one doesn't connect, the Right one goes right in there like a well-fitted puzzle.

However, unlike the Good One which is overall too sweet to be on paper, the Right One has some issues that you both may have to work through. 

They have the Good One qualities, yes, but they also have some traits that are going to test you. And you're going to go through it because deep down in your bones, you know for a fact that it is worth it.

That it's the Right One.

Often times the Right One is the one we marry. 

It's not a bad decision or something to regret. It's a common decision made by many and it's neither bad nor good.

The thing about marrying the Right One is that it will take a lot of strength, faith, and endurance to work with. 

The One:

Now, I don't know if you were paying much attention to it, but if you have I think you would have noticed that God wasn't mentioned in the first two. 

It's not because they aren't sent by God, but more so because they aren't sent by God personally for you. 

The biggest difference between The Good One, The Right One, and The One, is that The One is perfectly designed and tailor-made to fit you. 

They are not necessarily Good or what you consider Right. 

They probably won't tick off your list either, but they are exactly for you. 

They are not only what you want, but what you need in a relationship.

They are good, they are kind, they are ambitious, and everything that is on your list and then some.

The Ones are very rare to come by because these ones aren't able to find when you are searching for them. 

They are sent to you when God is ready for you to have them.

They're the ones that are going to know how to look out for you not only physically but spiritually. 

They will know how to challenge your mind and uplift your spirit.

They are great on paper, in prayer, and in the present.

There will be no misconception of time with them, meaning they come at the wrong time, but they're the right person. No, they'll be just what you need at the time and even more so.

This is the One that God is going to have fully equipped and ready to be with you in all seasons, good and bad.

I hope this post helps you when it comes to deciphering who is the Good, the Right, and the One. 

I pray that in the midst of it, all God reveals the answers to you and you be led in the right path. 

Guys, ask yourself questions pertaining to these categories. Are they the Good one, the Right one, or the One for me right now?

Ladies, ask yourself the same. 

Maybe this will help you. 

~TheRay