You Can't Change Their Minds!

 

As a former people-pleaser(eh em), the concept of having someone think poorly of you never sits well. 

Matter of fact, it kicks in the mechanism of people-pleasing to try to get them to think of you in the way that you want to be viewed. 

In the process of trying to change the way someone perceives you, it causes you to neglect your morals, your likes, and your authenticity. 

The harsh truth that I had to come to terms with was accepting that "People will not change their minds about you unless they want to themselves" 

It will never be by my own doing. 

Tough, right?

Allowing people who may see you as weak, too kind, mean, strong, deceptive, wise, cheater, naive, innocent, guilty, or anything that you are NOT, to remain viewing you that way is rough. 

Allowing them to have their own perspectives. Because, truthfully that is what they have and even more so, all of us have our own perspectives on how we view others as well. 

And, if others have the opposite perspective of who you are, trying to convince them that you are not, takes way too much of your time and self. 

My advice, although it may sound repetitive and played out, is to be yourself at all times. 

Invest in who you are and stay true to yourself only. 

If they happen to gain the right perspective of you, then good, but if they refuse to, then that is still good!

"What if it's my parents seeing me in the wrong way?"

"My family thinks I am too strong and I don't struggle. "

"My boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, colleagues, boss, someone who needs to have the right impression of me, and so forth. "

It's still okay!

Because if these people, regardless of who they are, did not have the right impression from the beginning is it worth it even trying to change their minds?

Do you think it is fair to yourself to live your life constantly trying to prove yourself to others? 

Especially to those who suppose to love you regardless?

It is not fair! 

Let them think what they want to think! Live your life in truth and in the Will of God!

Create those boundaries!

Draw that line!

Accept that it is what it is!

Mary Magdalene couldn't change the minds of the disciples that she was innocent when she came to wash the feet of Jesus, but she ended up being seen true by the RIGHT person. 

The right people will see you for who you really are and they should be the ones that matter. 

With these people, you won't have to work to persuade them that you aren't that or that you are that, but they will see right off the back just like Jesus saw Mary. 

Respectively, I think the only persons that we should even work to impress is Him,  and even then His perspective of us is exactly what we need to be seen as anyway. 

He views our hearts and knows exactly who we are. Even more so than we know ourselves. So, there's really not so much work that needs to be done anyway!

I hope today, that you take these words and stop tiring out yourself any further. 

It's a hard pill to swallow for people-pleasers, I know. It was hard for me to grip too, but I promise you that when you begin living to please God and staying true to yourself, there's a freedom and joy that comes that can not be replaced. 

A peace that surpasses you too. 

~TheRay